Goals I have as a mom for my children

Goals I have as a mom... it’s a huge topic. To think that one day my kids will be out in the world as their own beings and be a reflection of how we raised them and have distinct memories of their childhood.

I set myself a general goal. I started with just one. It makes it easier to build on for me and if I can achieve this one big thing by the end... then I’ll be more than happy. My goal as a mom is to have my kids be the biggest positive thing I leave/ put out into the world. I just want them to be hopeful, honest, compassionate and kind humans. To everyone, period.

In light of recent events I have realized how truly important that goal has and will always be to me. I don’t want them to judge others or make them feel worthless. They don’t get to determine a humans worth. They don’t get to judge someone’s decisions or actions. They just have to be the best they can be and that energy will come back around.

I have always believed what you put out is what you will get in return. So if they show love and compassion people will show that in return. If they listen and understand they will be heard and understood.

I know a lot of people say they want success and for their kids to be happy. And I’m not saying I don’t want that for them too. But I feel that if I can raise them to be the good we need, then their dreams will come true. It won’t be easy and they will have to work hard. But I will always be the positive force behind their goals!

As a mom I originally thought I had to set goals to be the “best” mom. Does that mean I can never feed them a single processed item?! Does that mean they can’t watch tv?! Does that mean they need to be reading and writing books by 3?! No absolutely not. The “best” mom for your kids is you. So if you have that as a goal check that box now! You have and are that. I believe God blesses you with the child you need in that time of your life. And if you don’t believe in God that’s fine too. I’m not here to judge your belief system, mine just happens to affect my feelings towards that goal. That child came to you when you needed it most and there’s a reason you have them. So once I realized the goal of “best” mom actually was discrediting me, I tossed it aside since it became so minimal in the big picture.

I want my kids to later think back and remember, I was always there supporting, encouraging, loving and nurturing them. I want them to model the kindness I show a stranger and the little wave I give someone as we go on a walk. If someone drops something while walking I want them to see me return the item and later do the same good deed shall the opportunity arise.

If later my kids can put a smile on someone’s face, help a stranger, or whatever they can do to be good in the world then my biggest goal as a mom has been achieved.

So I hope you can understand why I only set one goal. It seems like not much of a list. But this one goal is huge, it is complicated in the fact so many things can lead up to it. It takes years to teach and model. Am I perfect oh definitely not, but I have little eyes watching my every move and now more than ever am I cautious of this. There’s a saying that says something along the lines of you are kind and no one remembers but you are mean once and they never forget. Kids are like this too. They see you do one unkind thing and they may think it’s acceptable since your their parent and they learn from you. I have and will make mistakes. But I don’t let that get me down.

Take your mistakes and use it as a learning tool. Explain the emotions you felt, and then show compassion and an apology. Explain why that wasn’t what you should have done and what you can do next time to be better. Because they too will make mistakes but once they realize there’s a better way they can grow beyond those things. We are human. We are flawed. But we can be better. My goal as a mom is to raise my babies to be that better and good the world needs.