Marriage tips to keep love growing and fun ❤️

I often get comments that my husband and I are so fun together or cute to watch.

As much as I appreciate those loving and kind comments. I want to be honest. It isn’t always sunshine and rainbows. We fight, say harsh words and do the whole silent treatment thing too.

We get touched out annoyed and need space. But we also try and keep reminding each other why we fell in love. What sparked the relationship to start. What attracts us to each other.

I’m not a professional and in no way have qualifications to give you relationship advice. But I wanted to share a few tips, we have been together a dozen years now and he still gives my butterflies, our love still feels new and growing. I fall in love over and over again with him and it’s because we do a few things to keep us growing together.

But all these things don’t just happen that way. It takes effort, from both of us. After we had kids it was harder to focus on our relationship and meet each others needs. So we have adjusted. But it wasn’t always an easy adjustment phase.

My biggest advice is focus on the fun, what makes your relationship fun and you both laugh? For us we like to joke around, do or say silly things. For example I will spray my husband with a water gun just to get a laugh, he will smile tell me not to and wrap me in a hug. These are the moments that keep us playful, laughing and smiling together. But also keep it light. Let us release built up tension and just feel young and like kids again, back to when we first fell in love.

Secondly, talking, always talk. I’m guilty for this and will often shut down when stressed. But opening up my thoughts to him makes them easier to work through and so he knows where my head space is. How can he know where I’m at if I don’t tell him? Simple he can’t. And in order to work together and follow the same path. We need to talk. About EVERYTHING. Plans, goals, dreams, work, even just simple small things like what movie we want to watch. Any communication keeps you bonding.

My last tip for you, since I’m in no way a professional is to just be. Be present, be honest, be kind, be affectionate, be passionate, be truthful. When you can do all those things consistently and effectively. Your relationship won’t feel like it “needs work” it won’t feel like a burden. It will be a happy safe and loving place. It will be something that keeps you grounded in so many aspects. When there is tension in you relationship it can often be felt by others outside of it. For example in the workplace, by your kids, or friends. I’m not saying all things have to be “perfect” because no relationship will be. But just staying connected and playful with each other helps keep the love strong and alive.

It’s like a fire and in order to stay burning it needs fuel, it won’t just stay going without a little effort.

I’m guilty of only sharing the happy moments, but I can assure you there are tears, and raised voices even though we both don’t intend to. There are hurt feelings and silent treatments. We had actually just come out of probably one of the hardest seasons of marriage we have been through. Tested and tried over and over. In the end we stuck together and used the three main tips to move forward together and to love and support each other. But there is also make ups and effort to make right. So all I’m saying in the end, is play, play with each other. Be silly, remind each other why you fell in love. Why you chose to walk this road together and why you said “I do” those two words will forever be the best you have said to each other. Those two words bonded you, as partners, lovers, supporters and friends. Those two words held a meaning of love and life together. So honour them and remember why you said them.

What I want for all of you is a love that’s true, worthy and honest. A partner who is wild about you, and to remind you that we are all humans and relationships need work and effort.