Terrible Two’s and “Threenager” Phases, You got this Mama!

Everyone told me prepare for the “terrible two’s” well I didn’t think it was all that terrible.

Sure there were hard moments and tantrums. But the three’s are really what I have found the most difficult.

My daughter is 3.5 now and she’s just so full of life. But it’s come with some hard moments. The tantrums kicked it up a notch.

I found 2 was hard because they struggled to explain themselves. I think 3 is hard because they now struggle to define themselves.

Figuring out who they are isn’t easy. I’m still working and learning myself I can’t imagine how they feel doing it at 3! I see all these negative things about tantrums and yes believe me I get they are not fun. But I have to sit back and think why they happen.

They are learning so much. Independence, confidence, choice, reasoning, problem solving, emotions and so much more. It’s overwhelming. I honestly look at my daughter and see this untamed version of me. She’s got so many traits I carry, but I have the tamed version. Because after so many years we tame it to the more “socially acceptable” version of these things.

So while she figures herself out and all that she’s going to grow to be. I have to understand these hard days aren’t meant to challenge me. They are meant to challenge herself. She’s working through to learn who she is, it’s not a “bad child” it’s just the only way to grow and learn and become the girl and woman she is destined to be.

I have had to change my mindset and realize the “threenager” phase as we often call it, isn’t so bad. I mean it’s not a walk in the park some days. But I know this too will pass. Because after this I have a feeling I won’t see this baby girl as much anymore I will see this confident, independent and determined young girl who will in the blink of an eye become a woman. And she will be a force to reckon with.

So for all those mamas who are entering or in the “threenager” phase I hope this helps you understand them a little more and be easier on yourself you aren’t doing a single thing wrong. Your actually doing it all right! They are becoming some amazing humans.